The part he mentioned about how much our fathers affect the way we grow up made me cry. He said that when children are little, they ask their dads a very important subconcious questions. Little boys ask, “Dad, am I strong?” They need their fathers to be proud of their strength and accomplishments. When girls are little, we ask a different question. We ask, “Dad, am I lovely?” We need to know that we’re pretty, that we’re useful, that we have a lovely presence about us that others enjoy. It touched me a lot. I’m not going to say I’ve had a terrible life with terrible parents, but my family is just as broken as the next person’s in this day and age. My dad didn’t come into my life until my parents separated (when I was eight), before then he would just come home from work and shoo my sister and I away because he never wanted children. I’m very lucky that it isn’t that bad at all, he isn’t some sort of raging alcoholic or anything. It’s just that….I always have this problem that I don’t think very highly of myself. It was just touching the advice he gave…to love yourself. I don’t know why, but it touched me.
but beyond that, for someone who was supposed to “ease racial tension,” did anyone else think the things he said were pretty racist?